Since I am almost done with school (YAY!!) I was chosen to do an internship with a juvenile group home by one of my favorite teachers. I am absolutely excited and nervous at the same time. This is what career field I want to go into, helping children in their time of need. I want to save all the children, as corny as that sounds. I know you can’t save everyone and you can’t save someone who doesn’t want the help at that time but I do know that you can be there for someone in their times of need to help support them and encourage them with showing them that there is still someone that cares for them. Now I’m definitely sure there will be many challenges to doing this internship but I couldn’t be happier that I will be able to try and help children in their time of need. That is what makes me tick, what makes me the most happy in the whole word. I know there may be hard, sad, and depressing times in their career field but being able to be there for others, especially children for me, in their times of need is just amazing to me and means the world to me. When I was in my times of need as a child, I had an amazing foster mother that helped show me that I wasn’t alone along with amazing counselors that helped show me the way with supporting me. It was so very helpful having amazing people be there for me along the way. I hope I can be there for children in their time of need and help as much as possible and maybe hopefully make a difference in someone’s life. That is my goal and I’m so happy I’m one more stop closer to accomplishing it. Wish me luck!
Gentle parenting has been pretty hard for me and well I guess parenting in general has because I had both of my Littles at a young age, had a rough up bringing that has included abuse, and I had no clue how to be a parent. I found out about gentle parenting and it has helped change me for the better in many different ways. Heres a good example with some background: My Littles and I had a dog that we had for a little over a year but had to give her away to a new family due to one of my neighbors and my landlord. Our dog was my Littles only best friend due to getting bullied at school, my emotional support animal for my anxiety and depression, and a big help for my son since their dad has left out of the picture mostly. It’s been extremely hard to not have her around now for my Littles and I. I had been kind of thinking about getting a new small pet that my neighbor and landlord would be okay with and that could help my Littles again. They had enough money from their allowance to get two kittens today for themselves. One kitten was being super hyper and I was able to show my Littles about gentle parenting to the kittens which was pretty awesome. The hyper kitten was attacking everything and my daughter was freaking out scared and feeling very overwhelmed about it so I tried to hold the kitten with my blanket, pet it gently, and cuddle it. Almost instantly, the kitten fell right asleep. My Littles were amazed and said that all the kitten needed was some gentle loving. It really helped reinforce gentle parenting really works and that when my Littles are having a hard time and I’m feeling very overwhelmed with no clue what to do, to try and take step back, calm down, and try to understand with love. Maybe even though I still struggle with parenting and trying to be a gentle peaceful parent and think I’m clueless on most aspects of it, maybe I actually am learning and doing a good job.
I have anxiety, depression, and ADD. I absolutely suck at taking my medications for them. I kept being on them and then forgetting so I’d end up not taking them for a while like a few days or weeks. When I’d do that, I’d feel like complete shit. I wouldn’t want to do anything. I would stay in my room and cry constantly and also go about doing what I had to do like going to school and taking care of my littles. I was very unhappy and depressed.
I had forgotten to take my medications for a few days recently and just started taking them again Tuesday. It was really crappy when I wasn’t taking them. Tuesday when I took them, they weren’t completely in my system yet so I was still feeling crappy. I’ve been taking them every day since, which may seem small to you since it’s only been two days but it’s a big accomplishment to me. I feel amazing now that my medications are in my system! They really do make a HUGE difference! Today is proof of that. This morning, my littles and I had a kind of easy morning. At school for all of us, it went well. Since we’ve been home after school, it’s been good. I’m calmer and more focused so that makes my littles way more calmer and focused. I’m happy and so are they. I even made breakfast for dinner, our favorite. Both littles and I had such a good day so far.
Full Day #1 Of Trying New Things To Help My Littles:
This whole week my son has came home with reports of bad choices, fights, lots of anger, etc. Except today!!!! What we tried this morning helped a million.
Now here is what we tried:
We all had a shake with vanilla whey, banana, and milk in it to get enough protein and show my son he isn’t alone in this. Both littles loved it!
Both littles had their new daily vitamins. They love them since they are chewy and yummy.
My son had a new herbal supplement. It’s called Focus For Children. It’s grape and chewable. He took it no problem.
We used our essential oil calming mix diluted with water body spray on both littles. They like the smell.
I was super nervous picking my littles up from school but when I did, my son told me that he had a great day with no bad choices and no accidents. I double checked his behavior notebook and yup, sure enough, he had an amazing day!! He had no issues, no fights, no accident, or anything!! I’m so proud of him!! We got this!!
Evening #1 Of Trying New Things To Help My Littles:
Tonight we tried a essential oils blend diluted and one of a massage before bed. He did not fight or have a major melt down like normal. It really helped even a small bit. I could see a small improvement in him.
I’ve heard from other parents and a doctor about giving a little with ADHD some caffeine such as coffee and that it will have a reverse effect that it has on someone without ADHD. If given to a little with ADHD it will help calm them and help them to focus. I was kind of skeptical at first but we tried a small glass of coffee with creamer in it with my son tonight. He only drank half of it which was completely fine with me since I don’t want him to have a lot since it can have side effects. I was observing him for a while after he had it and I could actually see him start to calm down. He wasn’t yelling or hitting or freaking out or anything even when something triggered him. I talked with him when we were laying down for bed. He told me that he liked the coffee because it helped his head not spin. I asked what he meant about his head spin. He said that his head spins sometimes and he gets crazy. He said that he liked the coffee because he wanted to relax and it helped him. So I think I will do some more research and talk with his doctor about the coffee and see how often he can have it etc because I don’t want him having any side effects.
I’m so glad that we are getting to the bottom of this for the better of my son. It can only go up from here.
I was nominated for the Versatile Blogger Award by Matriarch Of Nerds and I couldn’t be happier! This is my first award, and I am so excited to have received this award from her because she is such a good blogger and I’m always reading her blog! She’s such a good writer and I look up to her a lot. She writes about her daily life including the ups and downs with her four children that differ in ages from a toddler to an adult, her struggles, and her journey in life. Reading her blog helps show me that we are not alone in our struggles and how to enjoy the ride on our journeys. I highly recommend Matriarch of Nerds to anyone wanting to be inspired, interested in supporting someone on their journey, and wants to relate with someone almost every step of the way.
There are a few guidelines when it comes to this reward.
1. Show the award on your blog.
2. Thank the person who nominated you.
3. Share seven facts about yourself.
4. Nominate 15 blogs (I’m only doing 9)
5. Link your nominee’s blogs & let them know.
* I have a big huge family.
* I used to be scared of dogs but now love them!
* I love to sing my heart out and dance like crazy but kind of suck at both.
* I want to do foster care in a few years to help youth.
* I have one sibling that is like my mother figure, best friend, and sibling all wrapped into one.
* I want to travel and learn all about everything all over the world.
* I believe in happily ever after but don’t know if it will ever happen to me.
* Fostering Hope– I absolutely love reading this blog on their journey in life with foster care, adoption, parenting, marriage, family, and everything else in between. They share their joys, accomplishments, struggles, sadness, thoughts, and new adventures.
* Nurturing Insanity– This blog is amazing. Full of their journey with homeschooling, positive parenting, and life. I love it. This blog inspires me every time I read it to do better and I always love to learn new ways of parenting and schooling for my littles.
* YOUNG & TWENTY– Love this blog in every way. Lots of funny real posts all over her blog. Awesome read!
* Today’s Dose of Sanity– I always enjoy reading this blog. It’s so full of life with all the ups and downs. I can always relate and that’s so nice to do when you can connect with someone’s writing.
* Running After Ale– This blog is all about her life with her toddler and their adventures. You will become breathless with her reading all of her posts on their adventures. Very fun blog to read.
* mom with the blog– She shares her journey as in motherhood, wifehood, and womanhood. It’s full of laughs and posts that you can relate to. One of the best blogs to read.
* genxmomma– I love reading this blog. Full of her honest realness in all her posts.
* REBEL THIS– This blog always has awesome new ideas to try to help you organize and try new things for parenthood and in your life. Love trying out the new things that she posts about.
* Bloom Where You Are Planted– She posts a lot of different posts but my favorite of hers would be her recipes! They are so good. I’ve only tried out two so far but wow, they were amazing!
I’ve only nominated 9 blogs and u understand if everyone doesn’t want to participate that I nominated. I nominated these 9 blogs because I truly love them and am happy to encourage everyone to check them out.
Thank you to everyone for inspiring me, encouraging me, and being an amazing supporter! It is truly an honor to be nominated myself and I hope you all enjoy my blog and to be nominated as well!
Day 23 Blog Challenge: Accomplishment recently.
A big accomplishment is that my littles and I helped out three children ages 3 months, 1 years old, and 12 years old for Christmas presents for their Christmas. We are very proud of that.
Day 13 Blog Challenge: Name and describe a few new things you have learned recently.
1. Mother Blessing Party. This Saturday I went to my sister’s Mother Blessing Party. I’ve never heard of one and was excited and intrigued about going to one. It was so amazing to go to one and I highly recommend one for any mother to be. Here is a little about one: A Mother Blessing involves a gathering of the mother-to-be’s most trusted friends and family, who sit in the power of a circle and share amongst one another. Traditionally it is a woman-only gathering and may include her mother, sisters, aunts, daughters, best of friends, mentors – anyone she respects, looks up to or values. It helps the woman to prepare herself for the birth, emotionally, spiritually and mentally, for the all important role of a new mother. She feels ‘held’ and supported by those she loves and respects – a great way to help her release any blockages she may be feeling and to allow her to embrace what’s to come. Hearing other women’s birth stories as you share around the circle can be surprising, exciting and heartwarming to hear. A Mother Blessing is to be very affirming, empowering, positive and uplifting.
2. True friendship. It was amazing to witness true friendship this weekend.
3. More about myself.
4. My mom. I have been learning more and more about her all the time. I’m fascinated by who she is and who she has become.
5. Public transportation. Love it! Today was my first time in a long time going on the public bus and it was nice to see all the places the bus goes so now I’m not as freaked out about finding a way to get where I need to go with my little’s.